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Rules for Kids' First Cell Phone

Are you considering getting your child their first cell phone?

If they are in the double digits, starting to spend a little time on their own or getting home by bus or walking, a cell phone can be a parent's friend. Some of us have chosen an age when a cell phone will happen; whether it's grade 3, 7 or 10, no judgment here. Every family is different and has different reasons for getting their child a mobile phone. Our oldest two set the precedence in our family when they were 12 and started bussing and being away from us for short stints. If you've decided your child will not have a cell phone until they are an adult or old enough to pay for it monthly, these rules may not be relevant for you and I applaud your resolve. I chose differently and I've had to learn along the way what that choice meant.

What I've learned and want to share is how to avoid or address some of the pitfalls we've faced as parents of five kids with five different cellphone experiences. These are mostly for elementary and junior high and are fluid, always changing. Our access and privacy rules definitely changed when they entered high school.

First, consider why your child NEEDS a cell phone. If it is for safety and your piece of mind knowing where they are, do they need a smart phone with access to the World Wide Web when they are out of the house with no supervision? If they are in elementary, probably not, but again it's your call. Just realize that your sweet, innocent 9 year old is curious and has friends who may be more curious. If you just put one curious word like... Say, "boobs" in a search engine, guess what will show up on their screen? A whole lot of boobs! This may or may not be a big deal to your family but imagine all the other curious words they can choose to access, with photos and videos! I had a friend find the word "fagina" in her computer Internet history when her sons were 8 and 10, which was her time to figure out how to safeguard them on the computer. Thank goodness for poor spelling :)

You can still get cell phones with voice and text only options or you can get a smart phone with no data plan for it: however, know they will still have access in wifi areas like friends' houses or at school. Be prepared to find questionable history if they have access to everything and anything. Kids are curious and you have just given them the answer to all their questions at their fingertips in Google!


Here are the RULES I wish we had started with before giving any of our kids a phone:

1. Access
The point of getting a cell phone for kids is usually because we want to be able to reach them (and they can reach us) when we or they are away from home. If we call or text, they should answer or respond as soon as possible.
Moms/dads have all the passwords and WE OWN the phone. The child is allowed to use the phone but it is not their possession to keep from you. If they are younger, maybe they only get access when they will be separated from their parents.
We will check the activity on the phone and the kids need to know up front that nothing is private, even if they delete it we can access the account history. This is not a spying tool for parents but an opportunity for our kids to learn about doing the right thing and for parents to help guide their child's journey in the online world.

2. Safety
If you do go the smartphone route, whether they are little or in high school:
- install a "find my phone" app. This allows you to find a lost phone... Or a lost or non-responsive child. Their location services must remain on at all times for this function to work.
- No communication with people they do not know. This holds true if they have a phone or when they begin playing online games on the family computer or tablet. These are scary discussions to have with our kids but if they are online, you need to have them. Age appropriate examples of online predators and the risks may save their lives.
- No downloading of apps without permission. Moms and dads need to know what's out there to be able to say yes or no. This is a daunting task if you aren't tech savvy and I guarantee your kids are more in-the-know then you are. If they ask to download an app you aren't familiar with, look into it. There are loads of parenting reviews available online. Say no if you're not comfortable and set an age when you may be more comfortable and they can have it.
- Set up parental controls on each device so they need a password to access downloads or certain apps. Each phone is different so check your specific phone details to do this. Don't wait, do it now.

3. Phones do NOT go to bed. The temptation of texting friends all night, the ambient light of a phone ruining sleep patterns and just a total disregard for the importance of sleep all get tested if phones go to bed with kids. They may try the "but it's my alarm clock" or "I just use it to fall asleep to music". Do not fall for this! Get them a clock radio or CD player with an alarm.

4. No phones at meals (I've broken this one on occasion and heard about it). Meal times should be spent together as much as possible and without the distraction of texts, games, videos, etc. It is a hard habit to break if you don't make the rule from the get-go. The people in front of you are much more important than the device in your hands; show them that.

5. Take care of it!
Consider what feels right for you, making them earn money for their first phone or gifting it to them. Kids are growing and learning to be responsible and they will make mistakes - that includes with their phones. Whether you bought the first one or they did, you have to decide if you will have mercy if they have one accident or lose it. I guarantee they will appreciate it more and take better care of it if they paid for it but that will work too if the repair or replacement phone was earned. Just whatever you do... Do not repair or replace a second time. It will never end! Trust me .

6. Photos, Videos and Sexting (I know, but read it!)
For the little ones, no taking pictures or videos of people without permission. Elementary kids have gotten themselves into hot water just being silly and thinking it's fun to share or show pictures of classmates in embarrassing situations, but it isn't fun for everyone. See, that was easy!

Now the hard part... Sending pornographic pics or videos of themselves or others through their phones (tablets and computers too) happening at far too young ages. I know this sounds horrific if you have kids who are very young and the concept of even bringing this up seems ridiculous; However, it's happening everyday in almost every junior high in the city. Ask your school administrators and you will find they are dealing with online bullying and sexting issues all the time. Cell phones make these situations very easy to get involved with and sadly it has become the norm. It freaks me out too, but if we don't have these conversations, monitor online activities and stay in the know, it may be our kids making this mistake, and it's a big one.
Can you imagine yourself when you had your first big crush? Can you remember peer pressure? Talking about societal issues and sexualization in the media is a whole other post, but media is influencing a generation and we can't turn a blind eye hoping it's not our child participating in these activities. I hope it isn't either, but they likely know, have seen or heard about a boy or girl who sent nude photos. Have the conversation.
Taking nude pics of underage kids is child pornography. Sending it through the Internet or a cell phone is distribution of child pornography. Even if it's the child taking and sending pictures of them self, it is still illegal. There are too many examples of kids being expelled from schools and some have been charged with these offenses. Even worse though is how it impacts the child when their private photos are shared with the entire class, school or on social media. They just didn't know how bad it could be sending one simple picture, but it can be horrible.

We need to educate our kids and prepare them for how their actions with their cell phones can change their lives in a moment. We also need to educate ourselves on the realities and dangers having access to anything can create.

Communication about the tough topics, set clear boundaries and rules, research apps, and "you own the phone" messaging all can help you in navigating the rough waters. Kids will make mistakes so be prepared for bumps in the road but by knowing and discussing in advance I hope these tips will help make your child's first cell phone experience a good one. Good luck!

The Cocoa Plan - Changing the Way Cocoa is Produced

March 1st, 2012

ECM had the chance to chat with Catherine O’Brien, Director of Public Affairs of Nestlé Canada, about The Cocoa Plan, an initiative in which Nestlé is working to improve the livelihoods of cocoa farmers through an integrated program that addresses a number of issues facing cocoa growing communities.  

Q: Please tell us a bit about the Cocoa Plan.

A: The Cocoa Plan is Nestlé’s way of helping to tackle key issues facing cocoa farmers, their families and communities in order to create a brighter future for cocoa farming. It covers all aspects of a cocoa bean’s journey, starting with farmers and ending with the consumer.

Recently, disease, economic decline and other hardships have taken a toll on cocoa-farming communities, some of which are nearing crisis.

Nestlé’s vision for The Cocoa Plan is to help cocoa farmers run profitable farms, respect the environment, have a good quality of life and for their children to benefit from an education and see cocoa farming as a respectable profession.

It is a $120 million, ten-year global investment that focuses on distributing higher-yield disease-resistant plants that produce more income, providing education for farmers and their families and improving infrastructure in farming communities in cocoa growing regions of the world.

 

Q: Why was there a need for something like the Cocoa Plan (what were the issues plaguing the cocoa industry)?

A: The shortages of cocoa supply are severe and prices are at their peak. In fact, in recent years, demand has been outstripping supply – and there are two key reasons for this:

  • First, there is a significant increase in demand.
  • Second, the market can’t keep up with this demand – mainly due to deterioration in the world’s tree stock. Because of war, economic and social unrest –especially in the Ivory Coast – the much needed regeneration of trees has not taken place.

With The Cocoa Plan, we want to help farmers improve their output by supplying them with higher-yielding, disease-resistant plants that will in turn, produce more income.

 

Q: Who does The Coca Plan benefit?

A: The Cocoa Plan is part of Nestlé’s commitment to Creating Shared Value — the idea that the company’s business activities should benefit our customers, employees and shareholders, and also create value  in the communities we work in and source ingredients from.

 

Q: Why should something like The Cocoa Plan mean something to families who consume chocolate?

A: With The Cocoa Plan we are taking sustainable cocoa in products very mainstream. For Canadians, this gives us a chance to reflect on how the simple choices we make at home can benefit people and communities in other parts of the world.

Canada is now the fifth country to use Cocoa Plan cocoa in its products, making it a leader in adopting sustainable cocoa in its production. The bars are in-store now and can be identified through The Cocoa Plan logo that appears on-pack.

 

Q: Can you give us a comparison of the life of a cocoa farmer pre-Cocoa Plan vs. with The Cocoa Plan implemented?

A: Approximately 95 per cent of the world’s cocoa is grown on small, (typically) family farms of no more than 10 acres. These farms, which are located in the Equatorial regions where cocoa grows best, are usually not mechanized and operate in much the same way as they did 100 years ago. 

Many farmers do not enjoy fair incomes and do not have access to modernized agricultural practices and programs to increase productivity and profitability.

Cocoa trees are vulnerable to pests and diseases that can seriously affect the crop, or wipe it out entirely.  Disease is one of the top challenges facing cocoa farmers worldwide.  For example, in the Ivory Coast, it is estimated that up to 30 per cent of the cocoa is lost because of Black Pod disease every year.

Using Nestlé’s extensive agriculture network and scientific expertise, The Cocoa Plan aims to help increase farmer incomes and improve the quality and productivity of harvests:

  • Farmer Education: Farmers that are part of The Cocoa Plan have the ability to increase their yields and the quality of their cocoa. 

 

  • Sustainability: They will have top-quality cocoa trees that are disease tolerant and produce higher quality cocoa beans.

 

  • Supply Chain Efficiency:  Many farmers are part of co-operatives that help them produce export-ready cocoa, thus eliminating some of the middlemen and ensuring greater revenues for local communities.

The improvement of these conditions for farmers means they have a better livelihood and their kids will see cocoa farming as a viable future.

 

To learn more about The Cocoa Plan, visit www.thecocoaplan.com.

 

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