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The Importance of Getting Away from It All

July 1st, 2016

By Kimberly Ouellette

Recently I took the most unique trip of my life, to date. It wasn’t that far, I stayed in Alberta and visited the Skoki Lodge in Lake Louise’s rugged backcountry. It didn’t really matter where I went, though, my soul just needed to be fed with some alone time and adventure. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE being a mom and wife and business owner, but there comes a time when you can just feel yourself aching, needing, to get away. So I did. I spent four days of complete bliss in a log cabin built in the 1930’s with no electricity, no cell phone service and no running water. Did I mention that I also had to hike 11 kilometers up two mountain passes in the snow to get there? Like many of you are probably thinking, I asked myself what the heck I was doing more than once. Why would I squander this precious ‘mom-cation’ time that I was blessed with by doing something physically exhausting and without the luxurious conveniences of technology?! With each step up the mountain and each pause to gasp for some air, I found out. Here are some things I learned while on this journey.

Having no cell phone service is a good thing. I focused on what I was eating, I fell asleep without staring at a screen, I looked up for a change. Also, I learned that I need to impose some self-control with the phone in my everyday life. In case you are wondering, the staff at the lodge were equipped with a radio system, so should there have been an emergency or something I needed to know about happening at home it would be fine.

You will come up with lots of excuses to not get away. Don’t listen. I paid a hefty non-refundable deposit, so I was committed. But, had I not, there would have been lots of second-guessing. Will by husband manage? Will my son be upset with me for leaving? Will the house be a disaster upon my return? Basically, how does anyone function without me? Turns out, quite well!

You can rely on your village. Let them be your village. It took five different people to cover all of the child-minding for my son while I was gone. The scheduling was a nightmare and I was worried my son would be an emotional disaster after all the shuffling, but it was the opposite. He had stories to tell me about HIS adventures while I was gone and wanted to hear about my “hike with friends”.

Mommy-guilt shall not exist! Taking time for yourself is called self-care. Your mental health depends on it. End of story.

You will return feeling motivated, refreshed and ready to be the superstar mom, wife, friend, daughter, employee, a business owner that you are! If you are really lucky, you will have reflected on some of the big questions in your life and have found some clarity, or maybe even more questions!

Whether you take a week long trip to an exotic locale or spend an afternoon sun tanning and reading a book, just figure out a way to do it! Carve out that time for you and only you, and enjoy every second.

Kimberly Ouellette is a mom to a three-year-old and Community Director/Owner of Modern Mama St. Albert. She loves sharing her experiences and encouraging moms to connect with their community and each other. You can follow her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and her website.


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