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Rules for Kids' First Cell Phone

Are you considering getting your child their first cell phone?

If they are in the double digits, starting to spend a little time on their own or getting home by bus or walking, a cell phone can be a parent's friend. Some of us have chosen an age when a cell phone will happen; whether it's grade 3, 7 or 10, no judgment here. Every family is different and has different reasons for getting their child a mobile phone. Our oldest two set the precedence in our family when they were 12 and started bussing and being away from us for short stints. If you've decided your child will not have a cell phone until they are an adult or old enough to pay for it monthly, these rules may not be relevant for you and I applaud your resolve. I chose differently and I've had to learn along the way what that choice meant.

What I've learned and want to share is how to avoid or address some of the pitfalls we've faced as parents of five kids with five different cellphone experiences. These are mostly for elementary and junior high and are fluid, always changing. Our access and privacy rules definitely changed when they entered high school.

First, consider why your child NEEDS a cell phone. If it is for safety and your piece of mind knowing where they are, do they need a smart phone with access to the World Wide Web when they are out of the house with no supervision? If they are in elementary, probably not, but again it's your call. Just realize that your sweet, innocent 9 year old is curious and has friends who may be more curious. If you just put one curious word like... Say, "boobs" in a search engine, guess what will show up on their screen? A whole lot of boobs! This may or may not be a big deal to your family but imagine all the other curious words they can choose to access, with photos and videos! I had a friend find the word "fagina" in her computer Internet history when her sons were 8 and 10, which was her time to figure out how to safeguard them on the computer. Thank goodness for poor spelling :)

You can still get cell phones with voice and text only options or you can get a smart phone with no data plan for it: however, know they will still have access in wifi areas like friends' houses or at school. Be prepared to find questionable history if they have access to everything and anything. Kids are curious and you have just given them the answer to all their questions at their fingertips in Google!

Here are the RULES I wish we had started with before giving any of our kids a phone:

1. Access
The point of getting a cell phone for kids is usually because we want to be able to reach them (and they can reach us) when we or they are away from home. If we call or text, they should answer or respond as soon as possible.
Moms/dads have all the passwords and WE OWN the phone. The child is allowed to use the phone but it is not their possession to keep from you. If they are younger, maybe they only get access when they will be separated from their parents.
We will check the activity on the phone and the kids need to know up front that nothing is private, even if they delete it we can access the account history. This is not a spying tool for parents but an opportunity for our kids to learn about doing the right thing and for parents to help guide their child's journey in the online world.

2. Safety
If you do go the smartphone route, whether they are little or in high school:
- install a "find my phone" app. This allows you to find a lost phone... Or a lost or non-responsive child. Their location services must remain on at all times for this function to work.
- No communication with people they do not know. This holds true if they have a phone or when they begin playing online games on the family computer or tablet. These are scary discussions to have with our kids but if they are online, you need to have them. Age appropriate examples of online predators and the risks may save their lives.
- No downloading of apps without permission. Moms and dads need to know what's out there to be able to say yes or no. This is a daunting task if you aren't tech savvy and I guarantee your kids are more in-the-know then you are. If they ask to download an app you aren't familiar with, look into it. There are loads of parenting reviews available online. Say no if you're not comfortable and set an age when you may be more comfortable and they can have it.
- Set up parental controls on each device so they need a password to access downloads or certain apps. Each phone is different so check your specific phone details to do this. Don't wait, do it now.

3. Phones do NOT go to bed. The temptation of texting friends all night, the ambient light of a phone ruining sleep patterns and just a total disregard for the importance of sleep all get tested if phones go to bed with kids. They may try the "but it's my alarm clock" or "I just use it to fall asleep to music". Do not fall for this! Get them a clock radio or CD player with an alarm.

4. No phones at meals (I've broken this one on occasion and heard about it). Meal times should be spent together as much as possible and without the distraction of texts, games, videos, etc. It is a hard habit to break if you don't make the rule from the get-go. The people in front of you are much more important than the device in your hands; show them that.

5. Take care of it!
Consider what feels right for you, making them earn money for their first phone or gifting it to them. Kids are growing and learning to be responsible and they will make mistakes - that includes with their phones. Whether you bought the first one or they did, you have to decide if you will have mercy if they have one accident or lose it. I guarantee they will appreciate it more and take better care of it if they paid for it but that will work too if the repair or replacement phone was earned. Just whatever you do... Do not repair or replace a second time. It will never end! Trust me .

6. Photos, Videos and Sexting (I know, but read it!)
For the little ones, no taking pictures or videos of people without permission. Elementary kids have gotten themselves into hot water just being silly and thinking it's fun to share or show pictures of classmates in embarrassing situations, but it isn't fun for everyone. See, that was easy!

Now the hard part... Sending pornographic pics or videos of themselves or others through their phones (tablets and computers too) happening at far too young ages. I know this sounds horrific if you have kids who are very young and the concept of even bringing this up seems ridiculous; However, it's happening everyday in almost every junior high in the city. Ask your school administrators and you will find they are dealing with online bullying and sexting issues all the time. Cell phones make these situations very easy to get involved with and sadly it has become the norm. It freaks me out too, but if we don't have these conversations, monitor online activities and stay in the know, it may be our kids making this mistake, and it's a big one.
Can you imagine yourself when you had your first big crush? Can you remember peer pressure? Talking about societal issues and sexualization in the media is a whole other post, but media is influencing a generation and we can't turn a blind eye hoping it's not our child participating in these activities. I hope it isn't either, but they likely know, have seen or heard about a boy or girl who sent nude photos. Have the conversation.
Taking nude pics of underage kids is child pornography. Sending it through the Internet or a cell phone is distribution of child pornography. Even if it's the child taking and sending pictures of them self, it is still illegal. There are too many examples of kids being expelled from schools and some have been charged with these offenses. Even worse though is how it impacts the child when their private photos are shared with the entire class, school or on social media. They just didn't know how bad it could be sending one simple picture, but it can be horrible.

We need to educate our kids and prepare them for how their actions with their cell phones can change their lives in a moment. We also need to educate ourselves on the realities and dangers having access to anything can create.

Communication about the tough topics, set clear boundaries and rules, research apps, and "you own the phone" messaging all can help you in navigating the rough waters. Kids will make mistakes so be prepared for bumps in the road but by knowing and discussing in advance I hope these tips will help make your child's first cell phone experience a good one. Good luck!

Why Are Playgrounds Important?

May 1st, 2016

By Ashley Betteridge

Playgrounds motivate children to get active but they also help to develop a variety of essential skills such as agility, balance, co-ordination and speed. This is known as the ABCs of physical literacy. Physical literacy is about developing competence and confidence in a wide variety of physical activities. The goal is to ensure that children learn the ABCs of physical activity and the fundamental movement skills needed in various sports and recreation so they can be active for life.

Why do playgrounds matter to physical literacy? As public spaces, playgrounds play a key role in helping all children achieve physical literacy. Because playgrounds are available year-round without registration or fees, they are vital in helping children from all walks of life develop physical literacy. Well-designed playgrounds provide the following physical literacy goals:

  •         develop the ABCs of physical literacy and build fundamental movement skills
  •         Inspire children to be physically active in an unstructured, fun-focused setting
  •         continue to provide new challenges as children grow in age and ability
  •         build the competence and confidence kids need to explore other forms of physical activity

How do playgrounds develop the ABCs of physical literacy? Canadian Sport for Life defines the ABCs of physical literacy as agility, balance, co-ordination and speed. A well-crafted playground can help build competence in all four skill areas.

  •   children develop both agility and coordination as they navigate their way up, down over and across climbers and overheads with varying designs and degrees of difficulty
  •  from swings to bouncers, teeter totters to basic balance beams, playgrounds provide numerous ways to build balancing skills
  •   children build both speed and agility while swinging, spinning, climbing or playing playground games

How do playgrounds develop the fundamental movement skills? According to Alberta Physical Education, the fundamental movement skills needed for physical literacy are locomotor skills, body control skills and manipulative skills. The good news is that a well-planned playground can develop all of these skills in an astonishing variety of ways.

Locomotor Skills are defined as moving through space in various ways such as walking, climbing, jumping and sliding. Playgrounds develop these skills in multiple ways:

  •         Navigating climbers of varying heights, designs and levels of difficulty (upward and downward and sideways) develops climbing skills as well as strength, agility and coordination
  •         Jumping from a moving swing, a platform, etc.
  •         Sliding is a locomotor skill that playgrounds provide year-round, developing core strength and flexibility
  •         Moving hand over hand across an overhead component is a skill unique to playgrounds; develops upper body strength and coordination
  •         Stepping and balancing across stepping pods, along balance beams or over wobbly bridges builds foot-eye co-ordination and balance

Body Control or Non-Locomotor Skills involve moving your body while remaining in place and can be developed in a variety of ways:

  •         Swinging is a much-loved body control movement found only on playgrounds; swinging helps develop balance and core strength as well as kicking and pushing skills
  •         Bouncing, rocking and spinning involve body control while also increasing balance, core strength and grip strength
  •         Hanging upside down, swinging by the arms or even rotating while hanging are unique movements supplied by various playground pieces; these movements develop flexibility as well as strength
  •         Components such as log rolls allow children to cycle their legs and/or arms while remaining stationary, building strength, balance and coordination

Manipulative Skills are developed while manipulating an external object. Here too, a playground can help develop skills:

  •         As children push each other on a swing they are using manipulative skills to trap and catch the swing as it comes towards them and propel it forward again
  •         Spinners are manipulated by one or more children who set the component in motion again and again while others do the spinning; teeter-totters and rocking pieces involve similar skills
  •         Equipment such as tether-balls, three-pointers and basketball goals provide further ways to develop manipulative skills

Not only do playgrounds help children on the road to physical literacy, they also provide a rich setting for imaginative play, social interaction and community togetherness. Playgrounds motivate children to explore their abilities, challenge themselves and learn what their bodies can do. Exciting play spaces inspire children to play outside and be physically active in an unstructured, fun-focussed setting.

White Rabbit Holding Ltd. (Northern Alberta’s distributor for Blue Imp Playgrounds) has been family-owned since 1917. They are proud to be Canada’s longest-standing playground and park equipment manufacturer. They design and fabricate a vast array of products at their facility in Medicine Hat, Alberta. Built on a reputation for durability and playability, they strive to craft inspiring designs using superior materials that stand up to enthusiastic play and extreme weather. Their high-quality products are infused with family pride and backed by the strongest warranty in the industry.

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